Being The One To Walk Away From Marriage
58When we marry, we normally feel those butterflies in our stomachs and see the fireworks in our partners’ eyes. We are so happy to have met such a wonderful person to share our lives with. In those beginning moments, we may be thinking of the here and now, not the later on.
As time progresses and the “honeymoon phase” wears down, we may start to notice things about our life partner we may have overlooked or that didn’t seem to bother us in the beginning. Once we realize these are our partners’ personality flaws, we can either love them for who they are, or begin to avoid them, and our feelings.
And then we drop the bomb, the words, “I just can’t do this anymore” come out of our mouths, and we see our partner lose control. As our friends and family find out, they are either on our side, or our spouses. And then the games begin, he said she said, he’s right she’s wrong, and all the other charades which arise.
Once we stop getting ridiculed or applauded for our decision, and the divorce has ended, we can look into ourselves and at our lives and try to move forward. For some it can be more difficult, for others it’s easier. Finding the balance and the happy medium makes a big difference.
Being the person to make the decision to call it quits or to walk away is definitely not easy, but that is usually the hardest part. Staying focused through it all and having a support system in place is helpful. What can't hurt us can only make us stronger. We tend to find our strength when we need it most.
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Welcome Mar,
I hope you find joy here on hubs as you write. Welcome!You will find many who just want you to succeed and wonderful writers who offer suggestions out of love of writing and seeing people grow. I remember when someone suggested pictures to post on one of my first hubs, I had no idea I could..I use Photobucket and it has great pics..Takes some practice learning the ropes but it fun learning.. Walking away takes a lot of strength..I wish you well and much happiness.
Sunnie
Thank you Sunnie. I have had fun just expressing myself here, and also reading other people's work. It's been interesting so far!
mareezy13-Welcome to Hubpages. Any comments and 'suggestions' that are made from other hubbers are most likely made from an attitude of encouragement...no need to feel 'wronged' or offended. I am always grateful for suggestions I receive.
Thanks for sharing your views here. I was curious if this was your personal experience???
Denise-this was a personal decision for me. After being ridiculed for it, I decided there were other people out there like me who needed support in this situation. Many times people only see what they want to, an illusion in their head to look past the negative. But it's not good to live a life of illusion and waste precious years. We only have one life to be happy for ourselves and our kids :)
Howard S. Level 2 Commenter 11 months ago
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2) The title could be more specific. "No" in what context?
3) The second to last sentence is awkward. Revise.